Tell him you're sorry his decision turned out not to be a good one; you CARE about him and want to help him find the help he needs! That's a
"hard turn" for those of us ANGRY and hurt by friends, neighbors, and family attacking us and shutting us both down and out... But, "needing to prove we were right" is useless -- and our loved ones (…
Tell him you're sorry his decision turned out not to be a good one; you CARE about him and want to help him find the help he needs! That's a
"hard turn" for those of us ANGRY and hurt by friends, neighbors, and family attacking us and shutting us both down and out... But, "needing to prove we were right" is useless -- and our loved ones (and even just-liked ones!) need help.
Maybe ask him what KIND of help you can help him find... someone who can prescribe whatever is needed to moderate (or, we hope, STOP) the poisoning? Stuff for him to read? Synopses of things that YOU'VE read? Ask HIM how you can help. (You already know enough to start -- you're HERE aren't you?!)
The problem with our 'others' discovering that they've made a HORRIBLE mistake likely also makes them unwilling to 'humble themselves' about it -- and so WE have to go the extra step. (And yes... I have to bite my tongue with my now-widowed sister; but what is MY goal? To get HER to admit I was right all along and she made a very bad -- and deadly in the case of her shotshotboosted husband -- choice? OR to entice her (BEG her!) to TAKE the precautions and ameliorations I THINK will help her, her son; maybe our other sister and HER husband and son! (Whole stupid FAMILY bought the lies!)
It seemed to make a 'dent' in her "you may not discuss covid!!" rules when I wailed (yes, intentionally, planned, -- and also entirely true!) "Look, I DON'T want to be left alone! You and Abby are ALL THE FAMILY I have left in the world! Please, PLEASE take precautions!"
If your friend gets touchy about "what, you want me to say you were RIGHT?" You can entirely legitimately yell at him: "NO, GOD DAMMIT! I want to you to live! To not get sicker and weaker! To take the precautions that SEEM to be working to moderate the effects!"
Tell him you're sorry his decision turned out not to be a good one; you CARE about him and want to help him find the help he needs! That's a
"hard turn" for those of us ANGRY and hurt by friends, neighbors, and family attacking us and shutting us both down and out... But, "needing to prove we were right" is useless -- and our loved ones (and even just-liked ones!) need help.
Maybe ask him what KIND of help you can help him find... someone who can prescribe whatever is needed to moderate (or, we hope, STOP) the poisoning? Stuff for him to read? Synopses of things that YOU'VE read? Ask HIM how you can help. (You already know enough to start -- you're HERE aren't you?!)
The problem with our 'others' discovering that they've made a HORRIBLE mistake likely also makes them unwilling to 'humble themselves' about it -- and so WE have to go the extra step. (And yes... I have to bite my tongue with my now-widowed sister; but what is MY goal? To get HER to admit I was right all along and she made a very bad -- and deadly in the case of her shotshotboosted husband -- choice? OR to entice her (BEG her!) to TAKE the precautions and ameliorations I THINK will help her, her son; maybe our other sister and HER husband and son! (Whole stupid FAMILY bought the lies!)
It seemed to make a 'dent' in her "you may not discuss covid!!" rules when I wailed (yes, intentionally, planned, -- and also entirely true!) "Look, I DON'T want to be left alone! You and Abby are ALL THE FAMILY I have left in the world! Please, PLEASE take precautions!"
If your friend gets touchy about "what, you want me to say you were RIGHT?" You can entirely legitimately yell at him: "NO, GOD DAMMIT! I want to you to live! To not get sicker and weaker! To take the precautions that SEEM to be working to moderate the effects!"